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How to Prepare for an EMDR Intensive: A Practical Guide
By Stephanie Coleman, LPC, EMDR-trained
Preparing for an EMDR intensive is different from preparing for a weekend retreat or a medical procedure. There are practical logistics to handle, but the more valuable preparation happens internally. The more clearly you go in knowing what you want to work on and what supports you need, the more the intensive can do.
Start with the preparation session
A well-designed intensive always begins with at least one preparation session before the intensive itself. This is not a formality. You and your therapist will map the specific memories, patterns, or events you want to target, build or reinforce the calming and stabilization skills you will use when the work gets intense, and set a realistic scope for what the intensive can address. If you go into the intensive without this session, you are skipping the most important part.
Come to the preparation session with a rough sense of what you want to work on. You do not need a polished narrative or a timeline. Even a vague description, something like a particular period that still affects how you feel or a pattern you keep noticing at work or in relationships, is enough to start from.
Clear your calendar around the intensive
Block the day of the intensive and, if possible, the day after. An intensive asks a lot of your nervous system. Going from a full-day session directly back to a heavy workday or a packed evening is not recommended. The work continues to process in the background for days after a session, and protecting that time increases what sticks.
Tell anyone who needs to know that you are unavailable. You do not have to explain what you are doing. Many people simply say they have a medical appointment. What matters is that you are not fielding urgent calls or making high-stakes decisions immediately after.
Reduce alcohol and stimulants beforehand
In the days before the intensive, reducing alcohol intake helps. Alcohol disrupts sleep architecture and affects how the nervous system regulates, both of which matter for EMDR processing. Similarly, if you are able to moderate caffeine on the day of the intensive, that tends to help with the settling-in phase at the start of the session.
This is not a strict rule. Life happens. But if you can make those adjustments, they support the work.
Get enough sleep
Sleep is one of the most important processing mechanisms the brain has. EMDR relies on the same neural mechanisms that operate during REM sleep. Going into an intensive well-rested means your nervous system has more resources available. Going in sleep-deprived means you will be working against yourself from the start.
Aim for your normal sleep amount for at least two nights before the intensive.
What to bring
Comfort matters during an intensive. Wear clothes you can sit and move in easily. Bring water and snacks, because your blood sugar will affect your energy and your ability to regulate. A small comfort object, a journal, or headphones can all be useful, especially during breaks.
Some people find it helpful to bring a photo of something that grounds them, a place, a pet, a person who feels safe. Your therapist may ask you to identify an image like this during the preparation session anyway, so having it physical is a practical option.
Set intentions, not expectations
There is a difference between an intention and an expectation. An expectation is a specific outcome you are counting on: after this intensive, I will feel completely free from this thing. An intention is a direction: I want to have space to work on how that period still shows up in how I lead, how I make decisions, or how I sleep.
Set intentions. Your therapist will help you scope what is realistic for the time you have. The work itself will often go in directions that are more useful than the ones you anticipated.
The day before
Keep the day before the intensive relatively gentle. This is not the time for a 6 AM workout that wrecks you, a late night social event, or an escalating work crisis if you can avoid it. Gentle movement, an early night, and eating well are the only real preparation you need at that point. The intellectual preparation happened in the session. Trust it.
Frequently asked
- How far in advance should I prepare for an EMDR intensive?
- The preparation session should happen one to two weeks before the intensive, so there is time to practice any stabilization skills your therapist introduces before the intensive day itself.
- Do I need to write anything down before the session?
- You do not need to prepare a formal narrative. A rough sense of what you want to work on is enough. Your therapist will help you map it during the preparation session.
- What if I am anxious about the intensive itself?
- Anxiety before an intensive is normal and worth mentioning to your therapist in the preparation session. That is exactly the kind of thing the preparation work is designed to address.
- Can I drive myself to and from an EMDR intensive?
- Many people drive themselves, but having a ride home after a full-day intensive is worth considering. You will not be impaired, but your nervous system may be tired and reflective. Plan for what will help you land well afterward.
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